How much is too much? I think there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed when it comes to trusting someone. I have known to cross it many times and so have thousands of people. 90% of the time they’ve regretted it and so have I. Trusting someone too much only means you’re opening up a gateway for them to let you down, hurt you and not feel a thing about it because they didn’t put the same amount of trust in you. Talking about hobbies, interests, movies, doing fun things, sharing moments in your life are what friends are for. Sure, sometimes we love the feeling of opening up to a certain close person but don’t let it disillusion you into thinking that you can absolutely say anything that’s on your mind with everyone. As an adult, you don’t have that liberty anymore and it can come with consequences.
Should I expect anything from others? I think No. Sure I can understand that we all had expectations when we were children and as a child, everyone cares for us and make sure we aren’t let down. That’s not the case when you’re older and out there in the world and meeting a lot of people. Expecting anything from them is not right. Even if someone becomes your friend, it doesn’t make it their sole duty to live up to your definition of a “friend”. They will have their own and live up to it. Everyone has one and it’s quite rare to find someone who shares the exact one(Enter the best friend/ bf/gf/spouse). It is only right that you're happy to have them in your life & give you some good memories than be sad because they didn’t do something for you while being your friend.
Should I put myself before everyone else? Yes! A thousand times over. This one has taken me some time to come up with.I was the kind of person who thought too much about others and their opinions before doing just about anything and thought I was being a great friend. I've realized that I wasn't doing them a favour at all but only missing out on opportunities. I'm probably still a little bit of that and I do care about people but I try not to care "too much" to the point that it is more harmful than valuable. How can you think for others when you haven’t learnt to think and care for yourself? In your 20s, your number one priority is to learn to sustain yourself and without being emotionally dependent on others. It doesn’t make you a bad person at all. It’s not always easy to see the good in others, but you need to start with seeing the good in "you" and trust your decisions.